THE BENEFITS OF TAKING A BIRD’S EYE VIEW

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One thing that we all benefit from is the capacity to see things from a fresh perspective. Nowhere in life is this more useful than in our interpersonal relationships – whether they be personal or professional. So, before reading on, I invite you to consider a situation where you’d benefit from taking a bird’s eye view, where perhaps:

  • You are frustrated by some tension or conflict present.
  • You are frequently finding yourself behaving in a defensive way, arguing your position.
  • You lose your cool far more easily compared to other areas of your life.
  • You are devoting less energy to really seeking to understand what is going on in someone else’s world.
  • Your attempts to ‘fix’ the situation either are not working or are making things worse.

Here are five ways to rise above a situation:

Be willing to take a fresh view: Whatever our circumstances, however difficult and challenging they may be, a fresh perspective will always help us take the next step. For some people, this can be difficult, as it appears to be giving away their power, but the capacity to take a different point of view is actually a leadership quality we can all nurture that gives us the power, demonstrating agility of mind.

See that we can never be truly objective: To be 100% objective is impossible; our perceptual position will always be coloured by our own judgements, opinions, expectations, biases, hopes and fears. Self-awareness is recognising the internal factors that distort our own perception of reality. Acknowledging that our perceptions are being coloured in ways that are invisible to us is an act of courage and shows humility.

Ask better questions:When we do commit to taking the higher ground, the quality of the questions that arise usually changes. Imagine taking yourself out of the situation – we all live a separate reality, each trying to make sense of the world using our own mental maps and the invitation is to get really curious: Why are they thinking that? What is going on for them? How are they suffering? What are they really trying to communicate? How can I meet them where they are at and really listen with nothing on my mind? And the most challenging questions of all:

How am I contributing to this situation in ways that are not obvious to me? What would I benefit from seeing differently?

Be pragmatic: There is a saying that we can either be right or be happy. The emotions associated with the ‘need to be right’ are an invitation to take a step back, letting us know we are unlikely to be seeing the situation clearly. We can inadvertently create suffering in ourselves when we become entrenched in our position, and this is not always obvious to us.

Maintain your own wellbeing: Sometimes we want to be a ‘rescuer’ or make things right. Self-compassion and being kind to yourself are essential for maintaining boundaries and acknowledging your own limitation and responsibilities. Putting yourself first is often the kindest act. Be aware of your energy levels and use your emotions as a barometer of your state of mind. And where possible, be willing to ask for help.

IS FINDING YOUR PURPOSE IN LIFE IMPORTANT?

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I have frequent conversations with clients who are looking for greater meaning and purpose in their life. There are many ways to explore and identify our purpose and there is no one size fits all approach. But what is purpose?

Simply put, purpose is a reason for being, a reason for something to exist.

Research has shown that people with a clear sense of purpose experience greater happiness, health and fulfilment in life. On the other hand, some people consider that life at its core is purposeless and that our sole purpose should be simply to enjoy the brief time that we have on Earth.

“Make your work to be in keeping with your purpose.” Leonardo da Vinci

One such approach to exploring purpose is the westernised version of ‘Ikigai’ (reason for being), appropriated from Japanese culture, as shown in the Venn diagram here. This concept is orientated around our career and represented by exploring the four intersecting areas of:

  • What you LOVE
  • What the world NEEDS
  • What you can get PAID FOR
  • What you are GOOD AT

The Ikigai process can be a very useful tool for taking stock of where we are in life. Indeed, if you have a job or primary occupation that hits all four of these areas, you are very fortunate.

Three out of four aint bad you might say but does create a ‘gap’. For example, how many of us have something we are good at and love doing, whilst meeting a need but struggle to get paid for it? Or those of us that find ourselves doing a job we can get paid well for doing well, the world does need, but it just does not light our fire?

In isolation the Ikigai process gives us a few clues as to why we may not be satisfied with aspects of our professional life, which we can then use as an invitation to step back and assess whether we want to make a change. From a coaching perspective the focus is very much on helping you explore what it is that you truly love (what makes you come alive) and on drawing out your unique gifts and talents.

A BROADER PERSPECTIVE

“True happiness… is not attained through self-gratification, but through fidelity to a worthy purpose.”  Helen Keller

Of course, what we do for a living is not the whole picture. To a native of Japan, the word Ikigai means something different, being more about appreciation of the small things in life, embracing our daily rituals, living in the present moment, connecting with nature and being of service to others. More broadly, for some people, simply acknowledging that their career is a means to an end is just fine and enables them to find meaning and purpose in other areas of their life such as in:

  • Raising their family and caring for loved ones.
  • Volunteering and being an active member of their local community.
  • Connecting with and protecting wildlife and the natural environment.
  • Tackling and advocacy against inequality and social injustice.

Indeed, for those without a career or job, purpose can be expressed in many different ways and usually involves a wholehearted commitment to serving others.

LETTING PURPOSE FIND YOU

As a life coach I create a safe space for clients to explore new possibilities, whilst tackling mental blocks and obstacles – this usually means letting go of limiting beliefs, challenging our assumptions about life and transcending old stories and narratives that have created limitation or a sense of powerlessness or apathy. We can also innocently fall into the trap of complacency and living a ‘comfortably numb’ kind of life, but it does not have to be that way.

“As you open yourself to living at your edge, your deepest purpose will slowly begin to make itself known.” David Deida

I see exploring purpose as a process of removing extraneous layers, simplifying and clarifying until what is left is a pure distillation of what is truly most important to us and that which gives us a deep sense of aliveness. Motivation and inspiration usually arise when we are fully aligned to our purpose.

In fact, our purpose may evolve and change over time and exploring purpose in itself can be a fulfilling means to an end if we are willing and curious enough.

“Your purpose in life is to find your purpose and give your whole heart and soul to it.”  Buddha

HOW BECOMING A BETTER LISTENER WILL IMPROVE YOUR RELATIONSHIPS

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Think of someone in your life who you experience as being a truly great listener. What qualities do they possess? What makes them different? Open, curious, empathetic, engaging and interested are words we commonly associate with great listeners. And on the flipside, how do you feel in their presence? How are you different when deeply listened to?

From my experience, great listening comes from putting aside what is bubbling away in our minds and placing our undivided focus and attention on the person who in front of us. Below are some tips and ideas to help you cultivate deeper listening skills.

Nancy Cline, author of the influential book Time to Think developed a model called the ‘Thinking Environment’, a key premise of which is that it is quality of our attention and listening that determines the quality of other people’s thinking.

YES, GREAT LISTENERS HELP US THINK BETTER.

Why would that be? Well, when we feel safe, witnessed and at ease, we speak without fear of being judged, interrupted or criticised: – as a result a more creative flow of thinking is ignited and whatever it is we are sharing has space to develop and grow. Indeed, when we are feeling defensive, what happens to the quality of our thinking and what we are saying? Yes, we close down, our attention narrows, and strong emotions can hinder our capacity to communicate effectively.

This is also a component of effective modern leadership, working from the assumption that someone has all the internal resources, creativity and know how to solve a problem or overcome a challenge, they just need to be supported and empowered to realise this (the opposite being a command and control, ‘do as I say’ approach).

When working with couples or with teams experiencing conflict, I invite people to take themselves out of the equation when listening, the direct opposite of which is listening with an intent to reply, to compete, criticise, compare or win – such conversations rarely end well from that place. Listening without judgement is an art and a counterpoint to the human tendency for confirmation bias – that is, seeking to confirm our existing assumptions and beliefs.

Here, there and everywhere, where are you?

“First seek to understand, then to be understood.” Stephen R Covey

In group trainings I lead participants through a simple listening exercise – working in pairs, the instruction is to take turns in listening to each other for 5 minutes each. Person A talks (on any subject, usually something that interests or excites them) whilst Person B simply listens and stays completely silent. Now, Person A (the talker) often feels uncomfortable, as we are used to a conversation back and forth and social cues that acknowledge what people are saying. But the real locus of the learning for the exercise is on Person B (the listener). What people notice is there is a ‘constant narrator’ inside their heads when listening, as they seek make sense of what is being said, pattern matching and comparing with stored memories and knowledge. Yes, it is natural to want to acknowledge, ask questions and share our point of view, but people often realise that there is listening, and then there is listening, and we can tend more towards listening to our own minds rather than who is front of us, or listening to respond rather than to understand.

Tip 1: Notice where your focus is and take a moment to become more present to who is front of you. Then step into the other person’s world, imagine them to be the most interesting person you’ve met. Be curious about how they express themselves, what they are seeking to convey, and what they may be communicating at a deeper level.

Giving each other Time to Think

Now turn your focus to how you feel when you are deeply listened to, whether at home, with friends or at work. In the distracted, ‘always on’ culture we live in, we are constantly drawn away from the here and now, another shiny thing that is vying to steal our attention. But it’s when we get really present that something magical can happen.

Nancy Cline, author of the influential book Time to Think developed a model called the ‘Thinking Environment’, a key premise of which is that it is quality of our attention and listening that determines the quality of other people’s thinking – yes, great listeners help us think better. Why would that be? Well, when we feel safe, witnessed and at ease, we speak without fear of being judged, interrupted or criticised: – as a result a more creative flow of thinking is ignited and whatever it is we are sharing has space to develop and grow. Indeed, when we are feeling defensive, what happens to the quality of our thinking and what we are saying? Yes, we close down, our attention narrows, and strong emotions can hinder our capacity to communicate effectively.

This is also a component of effective modern leadership, working from the assumption that someone has all the internal resources, creativity and know how to solve a problem or overcome a challenge, they just need to be supported and empowered to realise this (the opposite being a command and control, ‘do as I say’ approach).

When working with couples or with teams experiencing conflict, I invite people to take themselves out of the equation when listening, the direct opposite of which is listening with an intent to reply, to compete, criticise, compare or win – such conversations rarely end well from that place. Listening without judgement is an art and a counterpoint to the human tendency for confirmation bias – that is, seeking to confirm our existing assumptions and beliefs.

Tip 2: When listening, take yourself out of the picture and practice more compassion – what is the other person struggling with, what are they finding difficult? What do they need? How can you help them or be of service? What can you agree on? What would a neutral observer say? What are you assuming that is getting in the way of really hearing them? Celebrate their uniqueness, show appreciation, acknowledge their model of the world.

The role of State of Mind

What determines the quality of your listening?

For most people, when they are feeling stressed or anxious or are experiencing a very busy mind, their capacity to listen is greatly diminished. And when we are relaxed, focused on the moment and at ease, we can really listen. Cultivating greater self-awareness and the capacity to regulate our emotions (key components of emotion intelligence) can have a huge impact on our capacity to listen well. Similarly, if someone we are with is visibly overwhelmed, or has a busy head, what they most need is both to feel safe and for their mind and feeling state to settle down. Indeed, I will often start a coaching session with some simple breathing exercises – what a perfect way to set the conditions for a conversation, as we arrive into the present moment and let everything else fall away.

Tip 3: Notice how your own feeling state impacts on your capacity to be present and truly listen, and likewise, adjust your way of being (e.g., slow down or acknowledge their state) with someone who is in a place of overwhelm.

Finally, the invitation is to see that as social animals we all possess a fundamental drive for social connection, to feel safe and for our existence to be valued. Great listening ignites a deep part of what it is to be human in us, as listener, and for the listened to.

ARE YOU READY TO MAKE THE LEAP?

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There is an ongoing trend in the labour market of people resigning with no guaranteed job to move on to. This has been the year of the so-called ‘great resignation’.

Are you considering joining this trend in 2022?

There are many drivers of this trend with common factors shared as part of employee off boarding being:

  • Lack of purpose and meaning in the current role
  • Lack of employee benefits
  • Toxic work culture
  • Lack of prospects / opportunities for career progression
  • High workloads / constant stress, exacerbated by the challenges of working from home and in the midst of the pandemic

And I am sure there are plenty of people pondering leaving simply because they hate their boss. Well, some things never change. If you’re considering taking the leap and making a fresh start in 2022, here are some ideas to help shape your thinking and moving into action.

Finding purpose and meaning

Research has shown that when employees feel connected to a cause, or where there is a clear purpose and mission to the company, they are not only more engaged and more productive, but they are also more resilient to stress. Simon Sinek’s concept of ‘Start with Why’ (first shared in a famous Ted talk) is never more relevant in a world where impact on the planet, social inequality, dehumanisation of work and the vacuity of consumerism are all high on the agenda. We are far more willing to put in the extra hours, and to fully engage with our colleagues if we feel connected to a bigger purpose.

Tip: When researching potential employees, look at their website, read their ESG / CSR policies, research their company values and mission statement and reflect on the story they are telling about the culture they promote and value.

What’s most important to you right now?

“There’s got to be more to life than this. “ Anon

The last 18 months have led many people to re-evaluate what is truly important to them and for some that means putting a greater emphasis on family and relationships, finding their vocation or a deeper calling or pursuing hobbies and interests. This may involve a trade-off, for example sacrificing salary in exchange for more quality time with your family.

As a coach I support clients to get really clear on what they want, to create a vision for life as they would love it to be. Time and again the common themes are of balance between healthy high performance in a fulfilling role with quality time with family and friends with lots of interests, an active lifestyle and plenty of time in nature.

Tip: Take some time to journal on what is most important to you, asking yourself what you might regret in 5 / 10 / 25 years’ time if nothing changed. Use the Wheel of Life coaching tool to assess where you are in the different domains of your life and where you want to be. Find five words that sum of your expressed values (e.g. honesty, authenticity, adventure, etc.) and reflect on the degree to which you live in alignment to these values.

The grass is not always greener

Some people I work with come looking for support with making a career progression or transition, who go into detail in telling me exactly why they hate their job, whether it is their difficult and demanding boss, a toxic culture, excessive stress or lack of stimulation.

I am always curious about what it is about the job they do enjoy, or perhaps those elements that they used to enjoy; what it is do they value about their colleagues and working environment; how engaged are they in decision making; how empowered they feel, and their role in supporting and mentoring colleagues.

Sometimes we need to look inside ourselves and check whether we are blaming our circumstances for our feelings when actually there is something within ourselves that is out of balance in some way. We can easily convince ourselves of a story (what the thinker thinks, the prover proves) and live that out as a self-fulfilling prophesy. Yes, our thoughts create our reality, so what if you changed you thinking about your current role, what would be possible then?

Tip: I invite you to play a game where you ARE thriving in your current role and to notice what is different in how you are behaving, the way you are being, the leadership you are showing, the courage you are showing (e.g. in having difficult conversations, making bold requests).

For some, the hating of the job can act as a motivator for initiating action, but for others holding that negative emotion can be paralysing, and the list of excuses for not taking action is long. Well, what would an ounce more courage do for you?

Ask for help

You truly do not have to go it alone. Set aside your pride, seek out help. People love being asked for advice. Find a mentor, even in your current employer if you feel safe to do so. Talk to a friend or contact who has made a recent transition, reach out to people in your target sector or industry, expand your LinkedIn network, ask for a 20-minute coffee n chat online in the name of research. In short, get yourself out there, become more visible.

Explore what brings out the best in you

There’s a whole other piece on identifying what it is that make you tick, what makes you come alive, what are the conditions in which you thrive, what kind of challenges bring out the best in you. As a start, simply journal on this question:

I am most happy, productive and fulfilled at work when…

Finally, remember that wherever you are at, it is never too late to change direction, to set a new course. Happy exploring.

“The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second-best time is now.”

As one door closes, another door opens – revelling in the unknow

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I was in conversation with my own coach the other day, the rather wonderful Ann Ross, and she invited me to reflect upon the last 12 months in terms of what I have achieved and what I have been through.  What Ann reminded me was that we rarely spend time celebrating where we are and where we’ve come from, taking even the briefest moment to reflect.

Instead, we find ourselves bouncing from one achievement to the next, one project to another, with yet another new ‘thing’ for us to work one, whether it is at work, a business venture, a new hobby, our relationships or our health, wellbeing and fitness. And from a mind that is always busying away, there will always be something more to be done in the quest for further improvement, achievement or reward. The problem with this is that we can end up on a psychological treadmill, where we forget that at any moment we can press the ‘STOP’ button.

 

We forget that our entire experience of ‘busying’ is being 100% created within our own minds. And whether you see this as busy in the outside world, running around getting stuff done, or busy engaging with your inner dialogue, dealing with the constant chatter, in essence, the creative power from which busyness comes forth is the same and only works one way: if you’re thinking busy, you’ll be feeling busy.

And so, in giving myself permission to take a ‘time out’, I had a wonderful exploration with my coach Ann about my experience of  life over the last 12 months – the ups, the downs, the twists and turns and the wonderful surprises.  What emerged for me was a deep sense of gratitude, and a bit of a mental self-hug. And from quietening down, I experienced that deep sense of peace that I have increasingly noticed is always present within (our) mind. That’s why my favourite phrase of the year has been ‘presence of mind’ – in that when I am feeling connected, at peace and in an open state, I am in the presence of something far greater than my own intellect, and ‘I’ don’t need to do anything to:

Feel better

Solve a problem

Deal with a difficult situation

See a situation differently

Sort out my mental ‘to do’ list

Work out what direction to go next in life

Take a moment to reflect on the list above and preceding statement. In what way does it ring true for you? If it does resonate, what could the implications be for you? If it in some way jars or does not resonate, what questions does it provoke for you?

With this all in mind, I have given myself permission to have a 6-week period to take stock, slow up and be curious about what emerges.  That does not mean going to ground or not doing anything – I have long term projects and clients I will be engaged with in January – but it does mean not working on anything specific, not actively working on creating new clients, content or programmes.  Of course I may do some creating, but I have zero obligation or commitment to doing so.

Taking stock, I am blessed to be in new relationship with a wonderful person, I have a great new personal trainer who has refocused me and I’m looking forward to starting 2018 with 45 days of sobriety (one day for each year of my life).

So, beyond living life and seeing each day as a new opportunity, my partial sabbatical is about letting go of the old, being present, and opening up to something new. This, for me, is how we evolve psychologically and spiritually.

And if I was to be specific, and to set intentions:

To be more present to my experience

To be in my body, aware of my posture and how I am breathing

To gently notice what is passing through my mind, a witness to the passing clouds

To notice when I am getting sucked into the detail of my mind and to take the opportunity to ‘zoom out’ or simply forget what I am thinking about

To really listen to the people I’m with personally and professionally

To really soak in what is in my environment and surroundings, noticing what I might not normally notice

To try something new every day, and to run with it, with no judgement or expectation

I remember a conversation years ago with a fellow coach about seeing life as one big ‘thought experiment’. I still like the idea and for the next 6 weeks I’ll be mindful that the unfolding of life is far more interesting when we are present to it.

Revelling in the unknown…

I am excited about what 2018 will bring and the infinite possibilities that exist. Thank you taking the time to read this.  My invitation to you is to take a mental time out over the festive period, to take a moment to reflect. And from this quiet space perhaps something new is there, waiting to be welcomed in.

And if you would like one statement to reflect upon that in my opinion captures the very essence of the work I do, write it down, pin it up and take it inside:

“All we are is peace love and wisdom and the power to create the illusion that we’re not.”

Jack Pransky

Thank you Jack. And so, until 2018, go well.

Laurence

Understanding your own psychology–the missing piece of the jigsaw

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About 12 years ago I began to take a deeper interest in the workings of the human mind.  My curiosity mainly sprang from a personal interest in wanting to be a better, more evolved version of myself.  My first port of call was a mind technology called Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP). I found it a fascinating approach to understanding the workings of the mind and why people think the way they do. Simply put, I wanted to feel better more often. NLP offered a conceptual framework and a set of approaches and techniques for changing my feeling state and the way I thought. And it was useful, practical and fun. Life did get more interesting and, as a result, my personal and professional life ticked along quite nicely.

After a few years of training, culminating in a qualification in Cognitive Hypnotherapy, and opening a practice in Harley Street, I had established professional credentials and a vast knowledge base. I had in my locker a range of therapeutic and coaching techniques for helping other people feel better more often and to overcome whatever symptoms of malaise they were experiencing, whether it was anxiety, depression, habits and compulsions or phobias. As a business coach I loved helping my clients to create a more positive mind-set and to see their circumstances from a clearer and more objective perspective.

I particularly enjoyed understanding the structure of the language people used to describe their own personal story and their relationship to themselves and their lives. I was curious about how we as human beings create mental maps to navigate the day to day territory of life. I knew at an intellectual level that perception is not reality, but our own version of the world being projected out. I worked with the understand that all behaviours stem from our thinking, conscious and unconscious, and I bore fruit from the change work I did around the beliefs, values, insecurities, ideas and personal stories that my clients presented.

There was however a missing piece of the jigsaw that I could not put my finger on. Intuitively, throughout my training I had had a sense that we did not need to think our way to wellbeing. My feeling was that if we could simply get rid of the ‘bad stuff’, what would be revealed would be the higher and better version of ourselves that so many people aspire to become. And so, I saw our own personal evolution as a subtractive process, letting go of our fears, insecurities, and the beliefs that hold us back. However, all I knew at that time was that we had to ‘work at it’, and that this was a process of psychological engineering, an endeavour to create a healthier and kinder psychological landscape.

There were also the deeper questions in the back of my mind about life, the universe and everything. If this is the one life we have, there was be more to it – a reasonable philosophical line of enquiry I thought at the time.

In a nutshell, the missing link for me was an understanding that brought together psychology and the spiritual essence at the heart of what it is to be a human being. After all the word psychology means ‘logic of the psyche’ and the original meaning of psyche is soul.  But with all the advances in neuroscience and brain imaging, the soul remains beyond the grasp of modern science, albeit those at the frontiers are putting forward theories about the ‘seat of consciousness’ that lies within our brains.  However, from where I now stand, mind is not brain. Our brains enable us to be alive, to think and to be aware, but who I am, and my experience of having a mind is not located in a lump of grey stuff, albeit, a lump of grey stuff that is the pinnacle of evolution –  a collection of 85 billion individual neurons, each of which is thought to make between 10,000 and 100,000 connections to other neurons, making the brain a computer that is far beyond what be created with current technology. But as Sydney Banks put it:

The brain is biological

The mind is spiritual

It was in June 2014 that I was introduced to an understanding of the mind that truly was, for me, the missing piece of the jigsaw. The Three Principles Paradigm united what I now realise was my understanding of the mind based on the study of people’s behaviours and theories about how and why human beings have evolved to think the way they do with a fundamental way of understanding how our psychological reality is created and experienced. I have Stuart Norman, a fellow coach and therapist, to thank for giving a talk at Regent’s College introducing the Three Principles Paradigm which sparked my curiosity. Although I was at that time somewhat sceptical, and amongst those in the room who were throwing cabbages at Stuart, albeit, gently and lovingly, which he sidestepped with grace and candour. As we are all wont to do, I was comparing what I was hearing to what I already knew, an intellectual endeavour which is such a useful tool, but can limit our capacity to see something new, with fresh eyes.

As I write it seems longer ago than the three and a half years it is, because everything has changed, albeit everything is the same.

It was shortly after the talk that everything clicked for me, but in a manner that I had up until that point not been used it. I had grown accustomed to learning theories, models and techniques, accumulating a data bank of knowledge and skills which I then applied, in both my professional and personal life. I saw the wood and not the trees.

As I have learned, memory can be a seductive beast and what I now recall as my first major insight has been blurred through the mists of time. However as best as I can describe it, my first major insight into what the Three Principles Paradigm is pointing to carried with it a huge sense of knowing to it, as if something had been revealed to me that I had always known, but had become obscured. It felt true. It was powerful. In a moment, the realisation I had was:

We all have perfect mental health, but it gets covered over with a fundamental misunderstanding of the source of our psychological experience.

Now, that may not seem so different to what I had learned. But the major difference was that I had a visceral experience that acted as a major software upgrade to my human operating system. And this insight was in many ways, beyond words. As best as I can describe now, I had a profound realisation that all my (and anyone’s) own beliefs, ideas and insecurities were not fundamentally true and, most importantly I did not need to replace them with something more empowering. In some ways this did not make sense at an intellectual level, because we need to believe something, right? Well, as I deepened my understanding of the Three Principles Paradigm I discovered, and will continue to discover for the rest of my life, what limits us and what holds us back from living a fulfilling life, and riding the waves of life with grace, is a fundamental misunderstanding of where our experience is coming from.

With this in mind, imagine already living in a world where you have everything you need and there truly is nowhere to get to, and nowhere to be. What if this world is already inside you, right beneath your nose?  What if you possessed a deep, embodied understanding of how the human operating system and your own mind really work? What would be the implications for you?

And specifically, what if the Three Principles Paradigm is pointing is a powerful truth about how the human mind? And from looking in this direction, what if it were true that:

  • You cannot have a psychological experience without the creative power of thought in the moment being included. You cannot experience anything without thinking it.
  • An understanding of how your mind only works one way can fundamentally change your relationship to yourself and the world around you for the better.
  • Looking in the direction of the source of your experience is a consistently powerful way to fall out of unproductive or unhelpful states of mind and thinking patterns.
  • Insight into how your mind works acts as powerful catalyst for subtracting what you don’t need in your personal psychology, and as result, for revealing what you have going for you.
  • There is a source of wellbeing and resilience inside of you that is never damaged or tainted and never goes away.
  • Nothing on the outside can hurt you and nothing on the outside can help you.
  • Nobody is broken, nobody needs to be fixed.
  • Happiness, fulfilment and peace of mind can only be found by looking inside.
  • It is through insights and realisations that arise from within, that all change and personal evolution takes place.
  • We are spiritual beings having a human experience and not human beings seeking a spiritual experience.

What if…

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