WHY CHANGE DOES NOT HAVE TO TAKE LONG

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“This new way of being feels really natural, it’s the real me.”

I am always surprised but not at all surprised when I see rapid transformation in the people I work with. In the case of the above client’s observation, I instantly knew what they meant. Why? Because I have been on that journey myself, and indeed am continuing on that journey of:

Becoming who we really are.

Change really can happen very quickly, albeit I have noticed that there are certain conditions that will accelerate the process, specifically:

  • Commitment.
  • Willingness to be open and vulnerable.
  • Honesty.
  • The courage to experiment.
  • Choosing into (and accepting full responsibility for) our power as creator of our lives.
  • Knowing that this is a journey without destination.

And my ongoing enquiry as their coach is to ask:

  • What was the difference that made the difference?
  • What was the master key that unlocked the door of possibility?
  • How is the change beginning to manifest?

Well, the common themes that emerge in answering these questions are:

  • A shift from Doing to Being, showing up as greater self-awareness, a subtle shift in perceptual position to observer as well as agent, living with more intention whilst becoming more present to what is.
  • Embodied realisation that we ARE only ever experiencing the movie theatre of our own minds – it’s not ‘out there’ (other people and our circumstances) that is causing our felt experience. This is liberating and empowering.
  • More effortless living – showing up as greater productivity, presence, leadership of self and others, more effective communication, boldness, deeper listening, and for this client, their partner finding them more attractive (!). All these shifts in behaviour and the results that ensure arise by implication of the first two themes.

The second observation this client made was of being more comfortable in their own skin, likened to ‘coming home’ which in turn is giving them huge confidence, optimism, inner peace and outward energy. From this place of being and feel more ‘grounded’, their unique gifts and talents can be more fully expressed and what they’ve been perceiving as ‘weaknesses to be worked on’ rapidly turned around into strengths.

And so, within a few conversations, taking action and some self-enquiry (including reading and generally just ‘noticing’) this client has established the foundations for achieving their aspirational goals of:

  • Achieving their potential.
  • Being the best version of themselves.

From here, my job is to provide the supportive container for integrating the change at a deep level, further experimentation, exploration and enquiry and of course, to support their committed action. Yes, there may be wobbles, doubts, setbacks and new challenges to overcome, but that is all part and parcel of the journey.

What is interesting is that whilst we are only three weeks into our six month partnership, the fact that they have wholehearted committed to themselves is what is probably catalysing the change – and they’re only just getting started in the discovery of what is possible.